G’day sisters-
I wanted to share a moment with you, it won’t take much time and I hope for some, like myself, find comfort knowing that these trying times are not travelled alone.
As I began my day, my mind drfited back to the dream I had during the early hours of the morning…it was one of those dreams which seem to hang on to you all day long. Mine was a sad dream, with some family members scattered in parts, and me, the main character. I was trying to explain the changes we had all gone through, and how these changes had deeply affected us all, but no one seemed to be listening? Each family member has lost the anchor to the main ship, being my mother. So many are drifting lost at sea. There were tears, rage, and frustration which were as clear as day…and when I woke, I reached for my book of ‘biblical help’. I turned to the section, “When someone close to you dies”, because this is what propells so much of the pain within my family, keeping them seperated, from me, and from God.
It said the feelings were better ‘expressed’, than ‘repressed’, something i have been doing since the day mum went back home to our Saviour. But not everyone sees it this way, and many choose NOT to express, which I have no doubt buries the pain deeper into their soul and their everyday lives. CJ Lewis once said he railed against God when he lost his wife, but when he spent himself in accusations against God, he sensed the loving arms of God wrap around him, enveloping him in such a way that even HE was unable to describe! How I wish my family could feel this with God, and so I prayed that sooner or later, they would invite God back into their lives. God does listen, and he feels for us, but we must invite Him into our pain and draw upon His comforting love, strength and His support.
It says that divine comfort doesn’t mean that our tears will dry up, or that our grief come to a sudden halt. These are natural processes that have a powerful therapeutic effect. What it does mean, is we will feel God there in the midst of our tears and grief. The pain has to be entered into, worked through, even the pain of saying, ‘Goodbye’.
Never is God’s presence more powerful, and consoling, than during our bereavement for he gives us most, when most is taken away. And i know that no two people grieve the same, but I believe there is only one true light that guides our dark path. Today has been an emotional awakening, and I simply thank God for allowing my eyes to see.
‘Happiness held is the seed; happiness shared is the flower’-author unknown